It was when she brought out the diesel fuel that I began
to get nervous. I expect Jess to do mildly
dangerous things on a frequent basis but our relationship had never been tried
by fire accelerant before. Moving the
nozzle on the hose to “JET STREAM” and readying my fingers on the handle I
scolded, “I think this might be a really bad idea.” “Don’t be so nervous,” was the retort. “My dad used to clear land when I was a kid,
we had bonfires that lasted for days.” I
paused, caught in that weird place where someone provides reasoning
that proves your original point, not theirs.
“Umm, like I said, I’m not sure of the wisdom of this.” “Live a little,
oofff…” she grunted and she hauled the canister off the ground and tipped it at
the same time. “After all, we are making
memories…”
A weekend on the peninsula was just the thing to lift my
spirits after returning to my regular schedule. I wanted to visit with this family for 4 months before the right time presented
itself. Jess and I catch up every couple
weeks but her recent move means we need to get intentional if we want to
connect. I packed the car and hopped the
ferry with excitement. A weekend with
Jess means copious amounts of tea, masses of healthy food and a fair amount of
chocolate to boot. (Healthy: ridiculously
so. One day I stopped in at lunch time
and her children were eating oven-roasted carrots. Carrots.
Roasted. In the oven... for lunch. You might not be able to see me,
but I’m looking meaningfully at you.)
I am pleased to report my girlfriend did not set fire to
the farm house or any of the outbuildings.
However, I learned that she has a threshold for excitement that far
exceeds my own: one of the reasons I
enjoy her company. Truth demands I tell
you that whenever we get together, something will go wrong. This is after all the woman who accidentally
drove up to the naked barista coffee stand with a car full of children (Costly
Coffee, Nov 2014).
Minor miscommunication meant our arrival at her house coincided with
the commencement of winter basketball league. Being versatile, we took two cars
and split the children up. I
got the older girls and she took the rest.
She would go to the gym and I would meet her there an hour and half
later. We waved goodbye and headed into
town. The town itself was delightfully
small. The girls and I putzed about as
dusk fell and the shops closed up for the evening. After our allotted time was coming to a
close, we jumped in the car and headed for the gym.
We would have headed for the gym if the gps on my phone
was being agreeable. Apparently, it was
having an off day and decided to send me to the wrong location. I fussed at it, forgave it and started off
for our destination a second time. Wrong
location. Now would be a good time to
mention that one of the differences between large and small towns is the amount
of light when darkness falls. There wasn’t
any. The stars were gorgeous but I would
have given a great deal for a bunch of neon lighting at that point, anything to act as a landmark. I didn’t know the area and it was clear my
phone didn’t either. It was lying its
screen off. Faced with a decision, I gave
in and called Jess to confess I was lost.
It wasn't the first time.
Strangely, she didn’t answer her phone.
Deciding to strike out on my own, I left the incredibly dark field where
the stars shone brightly in order to find the gym. I continued to call my friend and she
continued to ignore my calls. After 15
minutes, we happened upon a streetlight and as luck would have it there was a
strategically placed street sign. Five more minutes and I was pulling into the
parking lot. Jess called as I put the
car in park. Better late than never.
She apologized for not answering her phone. It wasn’t intentional, the littles distracted
her and she locked her phone and keys in the car. She had to borrow a stranger’s cell phone and
call the auto center to request someone come out and unlock it. It had taken a while, but here she was and
did I need anything? I thanked her for being no help whatsoever and found her
in the gym three seconds later.
That evening, I was reflecting on the mix up. Two people, needing help, unable to meet the
need of the other. Does that sound
familiar? Marriage, friendship, and work all provide opportunities for mishaps. Sometimes life happens hard
and we get bruised. In our need, we
cannot meet the needs of others. Demand
outstrips supply and we are left feeling uncared for, unsupported and
unloved. Intentional or not, there is a
place to turn when such thoughts and feelings surface.
For he delivers the needy when he
calls,
the poor and him who has no helper.
He has pity on the weak and the needy,
and saves the lives of the needy.
From oppression and violence he redeems their
life,
and precious is their blood in his
sight.
Psalm 72:12-14
Even when life happens my friend, the Lord’s eye is on
you. Hardship and silence must not be
interpreted as neglect and unkindness.
You are loved. His eye is upon
you. My prayer is that we meet the needs
of others this coming year and in doing so, that our eyes may be opened to his
faithfulness when the fires burn hot.
I’m praying for you this week,
xoxK
P.S. Thanks for the wonderful weekend friend. You are amazing.
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