You shouldn’t scream at senior citizens.
It makes a good life rule don’t you think? In fact, I tell
frustrated adult children that if their parent hasn’t changed a particular life
pattern by the time they are 60, there is little chance for
transformation. “You might want to save
your breath,“ I tell them “and alter your expectations.” Sensible advice.
This however, does little to explain my behavior last week. Late Tuesday afternoon found me slogging
through traffic on a road I detest. The
view is great but the traffic pattern is from Satan. I was ten minutes into the drive when a car
came out of nowhere and pulled a traffic maneuver so egregious several cars got
cross and honked their horns.
I am not a proponent of excessive horn honking. Don't get me wrong, I will use it occasionally, but this was different.
The horn was useless because the horn can’t speak like I can. It lacks a self-righteousness and
fury that I find easily accessible. Which must be why I felt it a good time to start
shouting, “Are you serious? You have got
to know better than that,” as I swerved to avoid being hit. One more ridiculous maneuver from super-bad-driver-guy
and I lost it. I pulled up beside the
vehicle to get his attention. Surprised,
he looked over at me as I waggled my finger and flapped my arms. My 15 year old was dying in the front
seat. “Mom please!” she groaned weakly
as she folded herself in half to become invisible. “I’m only getting started!” I growled. “Move!”
Super-bad-driver- guy was actually looking scared as he tried to inch
away from my vehicle. I caught sight of him and information started to filter
past my shield of sanctimonious grandeur.
Senior…looking uncomfortable…wearing baseball cap…cap
perched on his head in that crazy over 70 year old way… trying to run away from
you in his vehicle…daughter on the floor…daughter starting driving lessons in a
few months…is rolling down your window so he can hear you a really good idea..?
“You are a psychopath!” I yelled in frustration and took
to the left turn lane. I expect he was
thinking the same thing as he sped away to the chorus of car horns. I had to get off the road and take a breather
before I spontaneously combusted. “Wow
Mum,” says daughter “You’re a bit intense.”
I growled some more.
To be honest my friend, the week went from there. I was short tempered and angry at anything that
was breathing. No. That’s a lie. The laundry in the house made me cross too and my blender broke. You get the idea. I
was caught in a funk.
It was at bible study a few days later that the Lord
snapped me out of my indignant reign of terror.
Our opening talk was given by a woman who had recently visited the
country of Rwanda. She shared about her
trip, the organization she traveled with and the people she met.
Rwanda is an east African country and is known as the “Land
of a Thousand Hills” due to its beautiful landscape. It is known in the west
for the horrific genocide its population experienced in 1994. Numbers vary, but it is estimated that
between 500 000 – to 1 000 000 people died in from April to July of that
year. Our speaker had visited a Rwandan couple
whose age difference was approximately 20 years. He was 63 and she was 40. My friend made a joke by way of gentle
teasing, scolding him for "robbing the cradle.”
Her hosts corrected her with grace and dignity. It was the genocide they explained. He lost his entire family during that
time, his wife and his children. A large percentage of their generation was
murdered. Remarriage and the age
difference was simply part of their reality in a country where approximately
20% of the population was removed. Loss
on an epic scale, staining the soil and psyche alike.
Our speaker then mentioned that rebuilding is taking
place and many who fled to neighboring countries were now returning. Those whose families who had been murdered and
those who had done the killing, looking to move home. I honestly cannot remember the words she
spoke, but I was struck by the impossibility of trying to live alongside those
who had murdered friends and family. The courage needed to keep going is indescribable. Everything in my life kind of shrunk down and shriveled as I thought
about trying to live in such difficult circumstances.
I was ashamed. In
my world, I can’t even get along with super-bad-driver-guy.
There are some things that we, as humans, cannot do without
the help of God. Forgiveness strikes me as one of those things. It contains the characteristics of the
divine. The ability to pick up and move
forward after devastation and loss, are made possible by the grace He
provides. Granted, one doesn’t need to
look halfway around the globe to find pain and anguish, though it never hurts
to turn our eyes to another’s suffering.
Can I encourage you to spend some time in prayer this week for those who
have experienced great loss? You might find that it helps to take the edge off
your own turmoil and gives you the basis for gratitude again.
I’m praying for you this week.
xoxKaren
P.S. Even the carrots at my house were grumpy this week.
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