Right: chia Left: poppy |
I’m not certain how I feel about chia seeds.
Not that chia seeds take up a great deal of my time,
you understand, but I thought I should confess it before we get too far
along. The only reason I have a large
mason jar with chia seeds in my kitchen is because I went to Costco and mistook
them for another food. They reappeared
the other day when one of my children discovered a chia seed pudding recipe
that she thought might be revolutionary if not mildly life changing. Backing out of the room, I allowed my
offspring free range of the kitchen and its ingredients as she embarked on her
upscale alchemy session.
One of the tricky things about being a parent of teens is,
although you have been functional long enough to pull off having a child and
rearing it to get its own driver’s license, your presence is sometimes
unwelcome. I decided staying out of the way was probably the wisest option as
my girl set out on new culinary adventures.
I managed to distract myself happily until a jar was
shaken under my nose. “Mum are these chia seeds?”
“No, those are poppy seeds. Why?” Teen sighs loudly and marches out of the
room. “Well that explains it,” Teen says
to bowl of impostor seeds in what can only be called an accusatory and outright
aggressive tone. “Mum?”
“Put them in a jar and I will use the mixture to make a
lemon poppy seed cake. No worry.” I tacked that last phrase on to encourage the
alchemy after what seemed to be a disappointing start. “Thank you,” came the cry from the kitchen
followed by the clanging of bowls.
The next cue from the kitchen was the scent of oats
cooking. “What are you making now?” I
asked sniffing the air. “Granola. I’ve found a sugar free recipe that I think
might be nice.”
“Excellent.” I
was continuing my theme of encouragement.
About 20 minutes later the smell of oats when from pleasantly
toasty to toasty burnt. “Umm bunny?” I
asked without asking anything, which is a pretty clever trick.
“I know,” came the terse reply. I heard the oven open some very serious
muttering and then the question, “Just how expensive are oats anyway?”
“Not very, just put them in the compost.” I answered keeping my voice level. I was owning the whole supportive routine by
this point, though I sorely wanted to ask what temperature she put the oats
on. I refrained and maintained harmony.
The truth is my girl’s kitchen time was productive
despite a few minor major mistakes. She even
found a recipe or two that will be used again which is no small feat when you
consider the amount of inaccurate recipes on the internet. What struck me though, as I listened to her,
was the amount of trial and error that is involved in learning a new
skill.
In our world of instant gratification, we rarely have
time to appreciate the small victories that comprise the achievement of a
goal. If you aren’t a runner, there will
be a lot of gasping for air on the side of the road before you finish your
first 5K. If you aren’t good at setting
boundaries, you are going to be thought awkward as you stammer your way out of
a volunteer opportunity. If you are
scared of standing up for yourself, you’re likely to raise your voice the first
time you confront someone who takes advantage of you.
New skills are worth learning despite the messes we
make along the way. We have a lot of grace for children as they learn new
skills but less for those who are older and making a hash of it. And so I’m thinking and praying for those of
us who are attempting new things and looking foolish at the same time. I pray you might have the grace to keep
trying and to move on past the mistakes that come with the process of learning
something new.
My girl will attest that not all honest attempts yield successful
results.
“Darling, these chia breakfast puddings have been in
the fridge a while now. Are you eating
them…or do you need me to make them disappear?”
“Mum, I’m not gonna lie. When you said you could make them disappear,
my heart got really happy and I felt way better.”
Preach.
xoxKaren
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